Laura, 34, who had been through a terrible divorce a while back and
Holly, 28, who broke up with her fiancé because she found him in bed with his
secretary, get up close and personal with us to share their thoughts and experiences
to explain why men cheat. We were the ones asking questions while they were
replying.
Do men cheat because of sex?
“Séx is probably the major cause for all men to cheat”, said Laura.
Holly was quick to point out, “It is not always the case that men don’t get
great séx at home. I know it sounds harsh, but men sometimes find it hard to
stay faithful”. Friends, better double check on this one in your own life.
Do men cheat because of lack of
respect?
“Jonathan, my best friend’s partner cheated on her for 6 months before
she found out. He said she did not give him respect which made him go astray”,
said Holly. “This was probably the only genuine reason a man could give to the
question, why do men cheat. Genuine, but not good enough”, said Laura. “He could
always have talked it out. I’m not sure if lack of respect is the justification
for cheating”, she added.
Do men cheat because of monotony?
“Mike always told me that his life was getting monotonous day by day. He
would come home from work and complain that every day was the same. I feel that
this frustration drove him to cheat”, said Laura. We could see the anger on
Laura’s face and could sure understand what she meant when she said, “Life is
tough and can sometimes get monotonous. That does answer the question ‘why do
mean cheat’, does it?”, she asked.
Do men cheat because of long distance
relationships?
We were hoping Holly would answer this question and tell us what it has
got to do with long distance relationships, because she was in one herself. She
did not disappoint us and gave us some great insight. “My ex and I were living
in different cities for about 2 years. I got suspicious when he started
avoiding my calls and started using frequent excuses and reasons to avoid my
calls. I decided to travel to Atlanta where he was based. I crashed into his
apartment only to find him with his secretary”, said Holly. “My case is a
typical answer to our question. I think that the distance caused my ex to
cheat”, she said, disappointed.
Do men cheat because they are
inherently unfaithful?
“Absolutely not”, said Holly. We all bump into charming men who may
flirt a bit with women but stay in their limits. Men who can stay committed in
the most vulnerable of situations are hard to find, but they do exist”, she added.
This brings us to the conclusion that men aren’t inherently unfaithful and
hence, it can’t be the answer to our question.
Do men cheat because of chauvinism?
“I think that the idea of chauvinism and male dominance has got a lot to
do with unwrapping the answers to our question”, pondered Laura. Holly agreed
and said, “Male chauvinism can sometimes make a man think that that he can get
away with everything, including cheating on his partner. No wonder we see many
male political leaders, corporate biggies and big celebrity names caught up in
cheating scandals”.
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